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Another day has just passed.
Another day without your touch.
I've never gone down this lonely road.
I can't believe I miss you, oh, so much.

My love for you keeps going deeper and deeper Every second that I am alive, I pretend that you are here with me, My pride melts to nothing when you arrive.

The pictures of you on the wall
Makes your presence more real to me somehow.
Everywhere I look, you are around
It makes me want to hold you tight, right now.

I can feel the warmth when we see each other, The special something that all long to have.
The passion that is lying here between us Is too pure, too honest, to not want to grab.

My chest feels like it's about to erupt.
Every breath feels like it may be my last.
The world was a colorful place for only a moment.
Another grey day without you has just passed.

Too often people lose faith in Love because of an unprecedented hurt that may have occurred in a previous relationship. The ostensible reaction is naturally to build one's defenses against the amorous inclinations of one's own abstract: the belief in true love and the quest for said love. As a result many go through life guarding themselves against their own hearts, and denying others the extent and full capacity of the emotional warmth to flow unto the object of said affectionate passion!

Yet, should one not consider another approach to love - One that would enable you to love without limits, one or many, without too much hurt and without having to build your defenses against your own heart? I am talking about accepting the pain of love not destined.

It sounds terrifying, I know. But, it is luckily easier done than said! You see, it is easy to accept the hurt incurred by love gone astray. You need to realize, most importantly, why you are hurting. The most common reason for this is due to the fact that people have expectations of their partners, of life, and, naturally, of their relationships. We all want the picture perfect dream, instead of OUR dreams (which, I might add, is perhaps more perfect than the actual 'picture'). It is necessary to know what YOU want, it is necessary to know YOURSELF - something not encouraged by lives 'supplied' by the environment with which we surround ourselves. Unfortunately there is no quick way to know yourself, as you consist of many levels, most of which remain oblivious to the observation of your conscious mind.

That being said, after a while you will realize that it is not the other person in the relationship causing you hurt, but you being your own source of hurt due to your expectations not being met.

In the end, the advice I can give you is this: Love yourself a little, don't expect too much and just appreciate the other person for what they have to give. There is a love for all of those who believe they will get it eventually, so do not despair! Believe in your ultimate love! Believe in your dreams! Learn not to expect too much and so you will realize that everyone has their own life to live.

The only thing one has to keep in mind is the preservation of the Self in relation to other people. Do not allow yourself to suffer hurt induced by others, be that physical or emotional. Do not keep yourself from sacrifice for another, yet be sure that they are worth it and that you can afford to give it. Love happens in many ways for different people and will never expect more than you can give!